Re-Read: Elantris by Brandon Sanderson

I recently read Elantris by Brandon Sanderson for the first time.

And though it was my first time reading it, it was not my first encounter with the material. I had listened to Graphic Audio's movie-in-your-mind rendition of Elantris, complete with sound effects.

Audiobooks and Franco

I think that plain old Audiobooks are an amazing format that let you do things with your hands while you are giving direct attention to a story. The Graphic Audio version adds immersive background noises and music and different actors voicing characters, all of which help to set the scenes for you.

While this is great for entertainment purposes, I was amazed by how little I remembered when I sat down to read it after listening to it a year or two ago. I have also observed that my retention for nonfiction audiobooks is also lower. Maybe this is okay if you do just-in-time reading, which a lot of people seem to talk about these days. But I tend to do just-because-its-interesting reading. I don't necessarily have a purpose before I start reading something.

One thing I have done that works if I want to improve retention is to listen to an audiobook repeatedly. While I don't get the benefit of reading words more slowly during an intense section as I do with with words-on-the-page reading, repetition is a good way to make sure I keep more of what I read. Sometimes I will even just repeat a chapter a couple times.

I don't tend to do it as much for fiction because, as written works, they tend to run longer than non-fiction and I like to repeat the whole book in the order the author presented. I like to re-live the suspense of specific scenarios.

Reading to Wind [Down/Up]

I have been reading just before bed as a way to wind down. You figure that reading a fiction work, like Elantris, would help to put your active mind into standby-mode. And it's true for the first half of Elantris, which unravels slowly allowing you to really get comfy with Raoden, Galladon, Sarene, and Hrathen.

I love Sanderson's characters. I love to soak up my time with them. They are people I would find inspiring. They're larger than life and his heroes are somewhat idealized. This is what I expect out of good art. Time with interesting and inspiring people is awesome just before bed.

And it would be relaxing but for the second half, which shifts the story into light speed and deep suspense. All of the original threads collide. Big reveals shatter your notions about certain characters. Your sleep will be delayed by your nagging curiosity about what is going to happen next.

Elantris

Having finished my non-audio re-reading of Elantris, I find that I am in love with it. It was Sanderson's first book and I'm sure there are ways that it lacks the intricacy of his later works but I think it's a worthy read. I even recently bought a copy for a friend.

IOS 9: Text Selection On a Bluetooth Keyboard is Borked

I use my iPad with a keyboard a lot for writing but I think Apple has made a mistake with IOS 9.

I used to be able to shift-option-arrow to select words from a start point to wherever I place the cursor. But now when I press shift-option-left it expands the selection left and when I press shift-option-right it expands it to the right.

I can no longer reduce the selection using the keyboard. It only expands.

It should work just like on my Mac. Why change this?

This is a bad decision. It's affecting Evernote, Day One. But strangely is not affecting the Google search box in Safari.

I feel frustrated now when I try to edit text and I have downgraded to IOS 8 so that the device is usable for my main use case.

It shouldn't be like this. If you're frustrated by this as well or have an idea on how to revert the behavior, please add your voice to the Apple Support Forum discussion I created.

How Art Helps Us To Contemplate The World and Imagine

I've decided to explore in writing my thinking in response to having read Whose Fantasy? Whose Fantasy? by Wendell Bernard Britt Jr. I picked it up from this morning's digest from Medium.com.

My Summary of Whose Fantasy? Whose Fantasy?

  • In Hollywood films of the fantasy genre, black people have been relegated to subservient supporting roles in fantasy when they are portrayed at all.
  • The outrage by some whites over the casting of Rue from the Hunger Games as a black character (which is exactly how she is described in the book) indicates a larger cultural bias that sympathetic characters are expected to be white.
  • Fantasy is the timeless mythology of our age. It is a space that allows us to contemplate a concretization of the nature of good, evil, heroism, and what it means to be a person in society.
  • The fantasy genres, however, suffer a lack of imagination in the portrayal of black people. They are never the central heroes, only subservient side characters, and these portrayals only serve to impoverish black imaginations of what is possible for themselves.
  • In casting John Boyega as protagonist for Star Wars: The Force Awakens, JJ. Abrams and the casting team are portraying a black hero. This is a turning point to be celebrated.

Contemplation

Act 1: Art to Overcome A Stifling Reality

This is a brilliant piece of writing by the author, Britt. I find that I agree with the author on many points, especially on the important of mythology as food for contemplation and inspiration of what is possible.

Britt presents that what needs to be added to the culture of our age is black protagonists in speculative fiction. The totality of his ideas resonate for me strongly as true with some parts as questionable, and I intend to explore both.

Act 2: On Chickens and Eggs

Britt finds this to be true: Art has great power. So do I. And so does Ayn Rand. She shares this about the nature of art:

Man's profound need of art lies in the fact that his cognitive faculty is conceptual, i.e. that he acquires knowledge by means of abstractions, and needs the power to bring his widest metaphysical abstractions into his immediate perceptual awareness. Art fulfills this need: by means of a selective re-creation, it concretizes man's fundamental view of himself and of existence.

That’s a big mouthful to say that art lets us get “hands-on” with our values: What's important and what's not? What's good? What's evil? What’s the nature of existence?

What I want to explore is the claim that black people need to see black people in the role of the hero. On balance, this seems to hold true in a more universal sense: We relate best to characters that are similar to us.

But do the heroes need to be black to be relatable to blacks? I’m not sure.

Britt asserts that portrayals of black heroes in fantasy would help a great deal and the persistent portrayals of blacks in subservient roles does harm and lacks imagination. He states that fantasy writers and film makers are guilty of a lack of imagination in their portrayals of black people.

In a literal sense, he is right. However, it’s worth observing that a failure of imagination occurs on the part of the black person who is defined or constrained by portrayals of black people as subservient. Even if the portrayals are persistent, eventually one hopes that a bold outlier emerges from the trend and shatters it.

Britt claims that by changing the art, black people can imagine better. But he also holds that art imitates life. So what truly has to budge first? Life or art?

Seems like a chicken and egg scenario. And really it could be either.

Which means we have a stalemate and an opportunity. I can think of no better proof that race doesn't get to “have the final say” on our lives than to hear stories of successful black people overcoming the circumstances even with the stories and films as they are. These are the sorts of struggles that forge true heroes. In the bitter reality of life, the obstacle-laden path may be the only way.

Act 3: Awesome Asians

A question that has come up for me is, “to what extent do I rely on artistic portrayals of people who look as I do?”

I'm not sure that I am exempt from its importance. To examine this, I ask myself whether I can think of heroic characters who look as I do.

My parents are from Vietnam. I was born in the USA and because of this I am an American citizen with a very American perspective. Now, let's assume that my asian identification is a bit stronger than I believe it is. If I were to try to think up examples of vietnamese heroism the only person I can think of is the Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hanh. One could do a lot worse than that.

But why stop there? Let's expand that to people from the many East Asian countries touched by China's influence. Now we're cooking with fire! Bruce Lee: Wisdom and Power. Martial artists and ninjas! The trusted and softspoken elder. Teenage boys piloting robots in anime!

My quick mental survey shows that I am not starved of artistic portrayals to which I can relate.

But what if I consider the question of whether I relate strongly to characters that do not look as I do. If I include Western art, I find that maybe the asian-ness of the heroes doesn’t much matter. I am able to relate to James Bond, and Harry Potter, and Austin Powers, even though I am not white and definitely not English.

This is what it means to me to be a man of the world. Though, perhaps I benefit from knowing where I come from even if I never go visit.

Act 4: Stolen From Africa… Brought to America

When the history of your people includes being packed into a boat and shipped to a different continent, as my family was, you can almost predict that it be difficult for that people to connect with the their own history in a meaningful and emotional way.

For black Americans, though, there are additional considerations. Slavery means a totalitarian obliteration of culture and disconnection with the past. It means the most outspoken and intelligent of your people being murdered. It entails a long term stifling of the spirit.

No matter how hard I try to empathize, there is no way for me to fully appreciate the experience of such a profound disconnection with the past. Britt's article reinforces for me that everyone needs art in a profound way, and I believe that black Americans especially need it because of this history. So when Britt suggests that people who make art, and especially film because of it's visual nature, have a unique opportunity to do good by creating heroic depictions where the protagonist is black, I can understand why it makes sense to call for it.

Britt observes that The Force Awakens does have a black protagonist and he applauds JJ Abrams and his staff. I applaud them as well. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want to pick some nits about Britt’s ideas on neutral characterization.

Act 5: … and The Importance of Race In Characterization

For speculative genres, race is a wholly unimportant aspect to characterization. This is to say that for characters like Frodo Baggins or Luke Skywalker, there is nothing that would prohibit them from being black.

I agree with Britt that the film makers (or authors) could just as easily choose to cast a black protagonist instead of a white one. (And between you and me, a black Luke Skywalker might be more believable as the son of James Earl Jones. Just sayin’)

But if race is "wholly unimportant" in the case of speculative fiction, if it is utterly neutral, it also means that film makers may lack a driving reason to cast black people rather than the whites they already know and with whom they have a long history of work. While it’s true that many artists are moved by reasons beyond profit, the film making industry is all about profit and is not fundamentally about "the imagination and production of a fair and equitable society". This is a challenge.

Moreover, some may not wish to risk audience backlash. For instance: I, myself, get annoyed when I think that a film maker has cast a black person in a role for the purposes of beating me over the head with “what a wonderful thing diversity is”. This is a gut reaction, I’m aware, to paternalistic political correctness, which I find stifling and oppressive. But I can cut myself some slack because someone else decided to make race an issue where it is not material to the story and, as such, violated my sense of aesthetics in a very distracting way.

I concede that white supremacy is really sneaky and it's hard to see it, especially in yourself. But I also don't care to have my art polluted with distracting cultural messages. Art should aim to be profoundly true first and foremost, cutting away anything that distracts or detracts from the story.

Act 6: Facts Should Inform Characterization

Along these lines, the best stories have deeply integrated characterization. By this I mean that all of the facts of a character contribute to who that person is and how he/she acts in the world. When we talk about race, it would be deeply flawed to expect that everything is the same except for skin color.

Race and culture are intertwined. And culture entails a certain way of doing things. This means that the story of a protagonist should be influenced by how he/she was raised and what his/her elders believed and what kinds of hurts they experienced along their journey. So long as there are cultural differences, white characterization and black characterization ought to be different in rich and interesting ways. This can lend the characters authentic voices.

Would I like to see more black heroes? Yes, if the stories are good. But I also don’t want to feel like I’m being spoon fed multiculturalism as an end in itself. I’d like to see some new stories which feature deeply integrated black characterization. That would be so much better than an accidental, last-minute substitution of a dark-skinned person into a culturally neutered role. I would hope that the cultural backdrop of the protagonist shines through to the his/her actions and decisions.

This is a sort of work that would have artistic integrity. Maybe it’s too soon for that, but that is what I would want to see.

Conclusion

I believe Britt has done an outstanding job with his writing. He has clearly identified a cycle of limited imagination and, in so doing, has made it much easier for people to avoid it completely. I truly deeply appreciate what I have thought about in the course of writing and editing this.

I still think it's important to get to a point where race doesn't matter. But I can also understand how much better life can be when you're inspired by art that feels personal.

Notes and Quotes from On Writing Well by William Zinsser, Chapter 11: "Nonfiction as Literature"

Franco Summary:  

For many people, "literary" means fiction.  But, this is an archaic and limited definition.  The twentieth century observed the rise of nonfiction as a respected form of literature in American culture.  Every writer should follow the path that makes sense and for many that will be non-fiction.  Do not let other people's "shoulds" convince you otherwise.

Selected Quotes:

  • "Those of us who are trying to write well about the world we live in, or to each students to write well about the world they live in are caught in a time warp."
  • "World War II sent seven million Americans overseas and opened their eyes to reality: to new places and issues and events.  After the war that trend was reinforced by the advent of television.  People who say reality every evening in thei living room lost patience with the slower rhythms and glancing allusions of the novelist.  Overnight, America became a fact-minded nation."
  • "Today there's no area of life–present or past–that isn't being made accessible to ordinary readers by mend and woment writing with high seriousness and grace."
  • "I have no patience with the snobbery that says nonfiction is only journalism by another name..."
  • "For most people learning to write, [the] path is non-fiction.  It enables them to write about what they know or can observe or can find out."
  • "If nonfiction is where you do your best writing, or your best teaching of writing, don't be buffaloed into the idea that it's an inferior species.  The only important distinction is between good writing and bad writing.  Good writing is good writing, whatever form it takes and whatever we call it."

It's Adorable! The Concert Ukulele Gig Bag by @PhitzCase

Liz is going to the beach today with some of her friends. A few weeks back, she joined me for a family trip to the beach and we brought our ukuleles. My Kala traveled in the rebranded Uke-Crazy case for Kala, which emphasizes protection but is bulky.

We didn't have a case for Liz's uke so we wrapped hers in a blanket and put a pillow case around that. Not a terrible way for a uke to travel for a car trip but I wouldn't want to take an instrument on a plane this way.

When we returned from that trip, I wanted to buy a uke case for Liz that we could easily stuff away during non-travel times. I purchased the concert uke case by Phitz on Amazon.

The Concert Ukulele PhitzCase and Copper (aka "The Buddy") 

The Concert Ukulele PhitzCase and Copper (aka "The Buddy") 

I wasn't expecting too much but the nylon feels good to the touch and makes the case feel premium. The padding is thick but not oppressive. You can still fold it and stuff it away. Frankly, it's adorable!

A minor drawback is that the storage is also "adorable" (read: cozy). If you try to stick songbooks into the pocket, it won't zip closed and they have to sit sideways. I would redesign the storage in version 2 to have a zipped inner pocket to larger open pocket which can hold a songbook or two.

I am impressed with the cost and quality of this case. If it holds up over time, that would round out what I already deem to be an excellent value.


(Conflict of interest note: None. I'm not receiving anything from Phitz to share this review but the Amazon links are affiliate links. You can support my writing by making purchases off of those links.)

(To The Buddy: thank you for enhancing my photo of the case.)

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Candy Coated Philosophy: A Review of "Expelled From Paradise" (Anime)

WARNING: contains spoilers

Expelled From Paradise

Expelled From Paradise

I watched Expelled from Paradise on Netflix last night. It is set in a future where the Earth has suffered a calamity that is never depicted in detail. We know only that it has destroyed much of civilization.

Most of the population of Earth left their bodies behind to be uploaded into a virtual world on a space platform, which is where the film begins. It launches into action pretty quick when the virtual world is "hacked" and our absurdly-proportioned protagonist, Angela Balzac, responds to the threat but unsuccessfully. She is sent to Earth to hunt down the hacker and end the threat.

She is provided a body which is generated from a record (and possibly a stored sample) of her own genetic code and she shortens the development of the body so that she gets a head start on her fellow security officers. They are also her competition for achievement.

She lands on Earth and shortly rendezvous with her guide, a cowboy-bebop-esque paragon of Japanese masculine cool named Dingo. When he makes his appearance, he is in an all-terrain roadster, complete with roll cage, coming at her at maximum speed and he is being chased by a huge swarm of sandworms. Angela assists him to neutralize the threat. It turns out to be a calculated opportunistic play by Dingo to sell bulk sandworm meat to his customers who are not far behind. This is our introduction to Earth.

The earth of Expelled from Paradise is a light-heartedly malevolent might-makes-right post-poc world. On the heels of watching a few seasons of AMCs "The Living Dead", it feels like Dingo and Angela have it a bit too easy of a time for most of the film. I would expect a mean-hearted world to suffocate under the rule of an organized gang of thugs or a warlord or some such. I would expect the world to be much more lonely and the pockets of civilization to be less populated and civilized.

This anime avoids those archetypes completely and presents a world of autonomy with the vague threat of violence.

An interesting conversation takes place between our protagonists when Angela gets sick. Angela observes that Dingo has the opportunity to become a citizen of Deva and he lays out some of his reasons for why he'd rather take his chances on Earth with a meat body. He all but says that the governing council from Deva is a dictatorship and she begins to look at the world with new eyes.

This discussion will feel familiar if you've been around people who like economics and talking about pie. Deva has a very top-down model with a fixed-pie size where it's brute competition for who gets more of the pie (memory and compute resources). Indeed this is part of what drives Angela to want to best her fellow citizens and improve her station. The Earth, though desolate, seems to have an unknown pie size and what you get is governed by luck but ultimately seems less constrained than Deva. Dingo deems Earth more virtuous because it doesn't discard those deemed useless by "society". The movie flirts with exploring the nature of human rights.

We get a very personal demonstration of what rights a person has in Deva when Angela returns to report that the AI named "Frontier Setter" is not a threat. She is ordered to return and destroy it to "complete her mission". She refuses, acting on her moral principles, which directly challenge the desire of the council to control what they can and destroy what they cannot. They put her in a box. She is rescued shortly thereafter and the movie plods with over-the-top action toward denouement.

Overall, I enjoyed three main characters: Angela, Dingo, and Frontier Setter. They were all very attractive and were fun/intersting to get to know for a bit. And the setting was desolate enough to create interest without being overbearing. I love that the writer(s) examined fascinating questions about the future of human consciousness and what it means to be fundamentally free.

The movie falls a bit short of being serious though. There aren't huge points of moral conflict at the limit of where a principle runs out of gas and crashes into nuance. Instead we fly between different perspectives, moving from deeply flawed premises to obviously "good" ones. It makes this movie feel a bit candy-coated, especially when you add in the robot battles and gratuitous objectification of the female body.

But, the film is well balanced and does well as a summer action flick... hell, even the objectification managed not to be as overbearing as it could have been.

I gave it 4 Stars.

My Facebook is Deactivated

Effective this evening, my Facebook account is deactivated. Use SMS or other means to reach me.

-Francis

Quick and Dirty: Vanguard Voyager and Voyager Select

Lookout world. I can now buy Vanguard ETFs without paying brokerage commissions.

I've had this perk for a while since it only takes $50k in assets to qualify. But I guess I'm really bad at reading the fine print.

This could be a game changer for me (though it could also mean nothing depending on Vanguard's ETF offerings). Commission-free ETF trades make me feel better about my ability to improve my holdings which benefit from positive inflation.

Right now, I'm using REIT funds to represent that section of my portfolio, and they don't exactly fit the bill because their stock price correlation is too tight. I have some homework to do.

Things That Annoy Me, Episode #1478: "Check Your Privilege"

I’m annoyed by nearly every movement which names “awareness” as its motive.

I’m annoyed by “check your privilege” even though I like the idea of living consciously.

When I try to imagine the person that came up with “Check your privilege” I see a white college student that hasn’t had a serious struggle in his/her life who found the perfect blank check to be instantly smarter than everyone else. What better way than moral oneupsmanship?

But I have no problem whatsoever with privilege. It has no inherent problems in a free society. My father got my family the hell out of starvation and persecution by a communist regime in Vietnam. This was a gift like no other.

I thank my “lucky” stars that I was born in this country and I would not rather have been born in Vietnam. “Privilege” is the outcome when parents succeed at giving their kids better circumstances than they had. The motive is noble.

So some kids grow up as “comfy kids” because they didn’t have to experience severe poverty growing up. I am a “comfy kid”. The challenge of creating a life that is personally meaningful is not easier for the “comfy kids”. “Character” is forged in the crucible of our life’s struggles.

In this sense, the “check your privilege” campaign has a seed of truth. It can be hard for the “comfy kid” to understand the opportunity that he/she has when viewed from the perspective of any of our archetypes of poverty: the homeless man, the working single mother, the citizen of a war torn country.

The broader culture seems to agree that it’s a tragic waste to squander a position of privilege. “Think of the good you could do” we are admonished.

  • White people are in the best position to change the system for blacks.
  • Men are in the best position to change the system for women.
  • America is in the best position to make a difference for any poorer country.

Because we don’t want to waste privilege, we sometimes act without fully understanding whether our actions will make a difference. Is doing something always better than inaction? I don’t think so.

Whatever we do, we have to live our lives actively and consciously and work to discover/choose our unique purpose, which we can work at tirelessly. This an enormous challenge with defies prescription but I believe it to be the surest way toward a better world.

We talk about fixing the system as if it’s one system but the prescriptive solutions seem to imply an understanding that there isn’t one system to fix. This make sense. Human systems, whether villages or corporations, are generally implemented as a haphazard collection tribes, each of which agree on a way of doing things toward a common goal.

There isn’t one system and we can’t simply modify a few lines of source code to make it better.

The prescriptions I have seen seem to agree that mindfulness and self-examination are the solution. But they also note the challenges because our biases become hard to see when they get baked into the fast parts of our brains.

So as a way of closing, I’d like to document my own prescription. Slow down.

One of the gifts of privilege is that we can afford to act with less urgency. We have resources and more time to get it right.

What if we committed to using the slower and more rational parts of our brains? What biases could we overcome by cold-hearted rational decision-making? This is a question that Paul Bloom seems to have taken up. It’s interesting to consider.

The world seems to be speeding up rather than slowing down and I wouldn’t mind if we took a step back to consider. Are we being driven by FOMO, the fear of missing out? Do we need to say “no” to more things? Do we need to meditate more?

I'm annoyed by “Check your privilege” because it's structured as an angst-provoking statement rather than a thought-provoking question. But I don’t fundamentally disagree that is worth considering how best to use a bit of leverage we may have that others may not.

I'd rather ask and answer this: “What would you do to improve human existence (starting with your own) if you could cash in your privilege and buy time with it?”

That's effectively what privilege amounts to for most of us: More time. And that's not a bad thing.

Dear White People Friends and Black People Friends

Does my addressing you as #blackpeople or #whitepeople start a conversation in a way that makes you feel welcomed by this and open to discussion? Do you wonder if I will give you a fair shake? Do you care?  Or does it inspire only enough curiosity to see how I will over-generalize, misperceive, slander you?  

I want to know how it makes you feel because I have this idea that racism is hard to write about in a way that doesn’t upset the people you’re trying to communicate with.

Photo Credit: Kevin Dooley from Flickr (Creative Commons)

I am troubled by recent writing which wants desperately to change the way things are but includes language choices that will turn people off.  The writing is littered with “black people” and “white people” and what they need to start doing or stop doing.  And I keep thinking as I read that they could achieve so much more if they were more solution-oriented.

Liz has helped me through multiple rewritings of this document and while we were walking this morning she observed that not all of the writers are interested in solutions.  She’s right.  Some are out to build themselves up.  Some are opportunistically taking a moment to attack white people because they sense they have a moral trump card.

I’m not interested to help the cause of anyone being a dick because they think they can get away with it.  In fact, that’s part of why I feel moved to write about this topic at all.

By sharing my words and ideas, I hope that the ones that are more focused on change than blame can find safe harbor.

I am neither white, nor black. Maybe this means I have less of a stake in this discussion but it also means that I can keep perspective.  

“Racist”: A Loaded Word.

John Metta reposted a sermon he delivered to a mostly-white audience at his church as a blog post, "I, Racist".  He shares a tale of an incident involving his white aunt’s sensitivities one that poignantly illustrates why he can’t talk to white people about racism:

White people do not think in terms of we. White people have the privilege to interact with the social and political structures of our society as individuals…
What they are affected by are attacks on their own character. To my aunt, the suggestion that “people in The North are racist” is an attack on her as a racist. She is unable to differentiate her participation within a racist system (upwardly mobile, not racially profiled, able to move to White suburbs, etc.) from an accusation that she, individually, is a racist. Without being able to make that differentiation, White people in general decide to vigorously defend their own personal non-racism, or point out that it doesn't exist because they don't see it.
The result of this is an incessantly repeating argument where a Black person says “Racism still exists. It is real,” and a white person argues “You're wrong, I'm not racist at all. I don't even see any racism.” My aunt’s immediate response is not “that is wrong, we should do better.” No, her response is self-protection: “That’s not my fault, I didn't do anything. You are wrong.”

The only thing I think is clearly illustrated by this story is how loaded the word racist is and how much harm is done to the possibility of discussion because they use the term without care.

  • “People in the North are racist”.  

  • Metta and family refer to his aunt’s “participation in a racist system”.

The words “racism” and “racist” are verbal battering rams with real emotional impact.  When we are confronted with a person describing aggregates of people resembling ourselves as “racist”, the words come across as blaming rebukes.

Racism is something we are all brought up to understand as an unspeakable evil.  The human tendency to defend our individual moral standing is so strong, I can’t blame a person for becoming enmeshed in a nonproductive and defensive discussion if they feel accused of racism.

Metta has no sympathy for this and I think I understand why.  Consider that he declares it character flaw on her part that she takes it personally rather than taking personal responsibility for racist outcomes.  

Blaming beliefs leave no room in the heart for sympathy.

Underlying Metta’s prescription that his aunt ought to have said, “that is wrong, we should do better,” is a blaming belief:  

Every single white person is responsible for black suffering. White people have NEVER taken responsibility for the situation. They all need to accept the blame so that we can get on with the conversation about what they owe us to fix it.

Metta can’t see it, but he is being a complete ass toward his “favorite aunt”.  I think the blaming belief is why.

If he didn’t give himself an option to stop talking about it, he could find a way to invite her to look at it from his individual perspective, which focuses on the grim systemic outcomes.  He’d gently explain to her that these are hard for white people to see.  

And he’d do it because he loves her like she’s his favorite.  

He says, she’s his favorite, but his actions say something else.

“White Feelings”: A Victim’s Privilege to Be Insolent

Let’s talk about “Black Lives” and “White Feelings”.  

The entire discussion of race in America centers around the protection of White feelings…
...This is the country we live in. Millions of Black lives are valued less than a single White person’s hurt feelings.

This a current trend:  Authors and tweeters are loudly telling the world they can no longer remain silent out of “concern for #whitefeelings”.  “#Blacklives > #Whitefeelings” says a number of tweeters.  

(They do not say whose choice it was to become silent in the first place.)

I’m not white but I can smell a not-so-subtle and opportunistic attack all the same.  “White feelings” strikes me as an elaborate way to insult white people. If someone told me I owed them help and they made it clear they don't give a damn about my “Asian feelings” I would find a polite way to tell them where they can stick their expectations and their cheap insults.

The victim mindset is the foundation for the resentful insolence of publicly declaring your disregard for “white feelings”.  The victim mindset’s primary mode and ultimate purpose is blame.  The goal is not understanding.  It has no concern for different perspectives or context.  It doesn’t care that there is more than one party in the conversation.

The victim mindset justifies hurtful actions by the victim so long as the target is the object of their blame: their “oppressors”.  

I don’t think action toward fundamental change will start from blame.  It will start from agreement, which can only be achieved through empathy and understanding.

Communication can only begin by abandoning the victim mindset.

Slow Down Before You Grind To A Halt

Practice Empathy by Quinn Dombrowski - Flickr (Creative Commons)

Practice Empathy by Quinn Dombrowski - Flickr (Creative Commons)

I want to tell the authors and tweeters talking about “White feelings” and calling people “racists” to slow down a bit and think about what they are saying.  They risk making the only potential allies for their cause so defensive that the discussion grinds to a halt.  

In addition to a huge attitude change, we need better way to think and communicate about the hard things. Can we apply personal relationship communication techniques to talking about racism?  So much of what is said about racism violates basic principles for talking about things that hurt:

  • Don’t start with blame or use attacking language
  • All-or-nothing words (e.g. always/never) usually indicate bad thinking
  • Beware of unspoken expectations and judgments
  • Ask yourself if you’re being fully rational
  • Make sure you agree on fundamental definitions

If these guidelines help us to have discussions about sticky topics in personal relationships, how could they transform the way we take on a charged topic such as racism?  

Time to Get Honest

In my relationships I have gotten myself hooked by disputes where I got so focused on who was right and who was wrong, I wasn’t listening or coming up with a plan of action.  Inevitably, the pain lasts about as long as my focus was misplaced.  

We need to pause and get honest about our motivations.  

  • Do we want to get the “northern white liberal” to finally accept his/her guilt? Or do we want to create radical change in the systemic outcomes?  

  • Are we out to damage the dignity of anyone who is white, or are we out to do our part to ensure dignity for all?

  • Are we more interested in “being right”, or are we more interested in making things right?

  • Do we want to spend our time blaming, or do we want to get to work?

If the goal is to change a system going horribly wrong, then we need a collaborative model.  

Contrary to what Metta says, ALL people are capable of thinking in terms of WE.  But we think in terms of WE best when we can agree on a well-defined goal, meaning that the conditions for success are itemized and attainable.  It also helps if it is clear how each individual can contribute toward the goal immediately.

With that in mind, I have a declaration of my own that I propose as a necessary starting point:

  • We are not interested in who is responsible for things being the way they are so long as we agree they need to be changed.
  • We are not interested in being right, and proving others wrong.
  • We are interested only in correcting systemic patterns that result in injustice.

We have to move past blame.  Blame is corrosive to collaboration. So is insult.  White people, especially the young ones, don’t deserve blame for the way things are.  As far as I can tell, they just got here and calling them racist doesn’t help anyone become more “aware” and it doesn’t win more allies for the cause.

My declaration is a commitment to stop fucking around and get serious about what we can do. My declaration is about priorities.  Whatever it is we think other people may owe us, however we think they benefit from oppressing us, I believe that these are not productive conversations to have.  These points are debatable and do not need to be settled before we can work toward making things better.

Hurt feelings are an enormous distraction that we don't have time for.  And hurt feelings or anger are both appropriate responses to spiteful, abusive bullshit.

Winning Requires Evangelists

If this conversation is important enough to be had right now… if #BlackLivesMatter to you, then it’s time to get clean on attitudes and the way we communicate by climbing the ladder of clean communication.  We don’t just want allies...

We want EVANGELISTS.  Evangelists are people who actively apply their best efforts and ideas toward a vision of a beautiful world.  They also believe in the vision so much that they go about inspiring and recruiting others to the cause.

We can’t win evangelists through guilt or shame.  These things make a person feel smaller, not bigger.  Small people achieve small things.

One final observation.

Guilt and shame and outrage were not the primary motivators in: “I have a dream…”

"I have a dream…” gave us a vision that won evangelists from all cultures. It wasn't a message of blame, it was a vision of interracial harmony that can only be built with a spirit of collaboration.  

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The Magic of Action

This morning I finished chapter 10 from the Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz. This is the chapter on Action and it’s a great reminder for lessons I have learned here and there in my life but I’m not consistent about. I started reading this morning in the section about using “mechanical” means to get yourself flowing.

Do this today: Pick the one thing you like to do lease. Then, without letting yourself deliberate or dread the task, do it.

I'm not a huge fan of doing laundry.  The times when I am most effective about doing laundry also coincide with those times when I am resisting action on something that feels more dreadful than laundry. I don’t think that the laundry becomes more pleasant to do. It’s just more pleasant than starting on my truly dreadful task. And once started, it becomes easy. Resistance melts away in the light of action.

When I wanted to start working out for the first time in my life, I told myself that I should not make any excuses. Step 1: get my clothes on. Step 2: get my body in the gym and my feet onto a machine. The rest would take care of itself. And it did. 

The lesson of this section, and indeed some of my own life experiences is that action is the best way to get ready for action.

Use a pencil and paper. A simple five-cent pencil is the greatest concentration tool money can buy… The mind is not designed to think one thought and write another at the same time… When you write on paper you write on your mind too.

You’re stranded on a desert island and you can only take one thing with you. What would you take? A pencil and paper. This is usually my answer because I do believe that it would solve nearly every other problem.

What problems cannot be improved or removed with clear thinking?

Remember, thinking in terms of now gets things accomplished. But thinking in terms of someday or sometime usually means failure… Tell yourself, “I’m in condition right now to begin. I can’t gain a thing by putting it off. I’ll use the ‘get ready’ time to get going instead.”

This is very Tony Robbins-esque. Tie pain to certain choices to make them less likely. Associate pleasure to the ones that help you to make them more likely.

What is ultimate pain?

Failure.

What do we associate with ultimate pain?

Someday. Sometime. Never.

How can we avoid it?

Act Now.

Not get started because we wanted conditions to be perfect and inspiration to be high is definitely the best way I can think to ensure failure. In fact, I haven’t written that much over the past month because I have spent too much time waiting for something. But I think I’m done waiting. I think I’m going to let myself write badly and that will be okay as long as it’s honest. And I’m going to do it because getting going is more important than some senseless idea that if I can’t start “on fire” I should just wait until conditions are better.

Conditions will if I start now

Squarespace Tip: Hiding The Datestamp on a Post

If you're interested to hide the datestamp on a post, it seems like you have to dive into your Design settings and add some Custom CSS.  I use the Avenue theme and I found a post that describes how to do it via code injection.  I modified it so I could just add it to Custom CSS.

.date {display: none}

Incidentally 'date' is also the class name that I found when I did an Inspect Element in my browser.  So if you're not using Avenue, you might be able to adapt this so that the class matches the class of the datestamp element for another template.

I'm an Engineer for a living and I always recommend that people "look under the hood" to get a better understanding of what is going on and what you might be able to get away with.  It's a character-building practice in life.

Amor Fati

Last night I listened to an episode of Tim Ferriss podcast where he shares a chapter of the audiobook by Ryan Holliday: The Obstacle is the Way.  I've lost the episode and I can neither find it on my phone or my computer.  That's fine... gives me more motivation to jot this down.

In this chapter, Holliday opened with a story of how there was a night where Thomas Edison’s factory had caught on fire.  And due to the unusual chemicals, there was no way the fire department could do anything but let it burn to the ground.  Edison looked for his son, so the story goes, and said to him, “go and get your mother.  You’re never going to see a fire like this again in your life!”

Holliday takes away from that a sense of having been impressed with Edison.  Edison had gone beyond merely avoiding getting upset when tragedy struck.  He found a way to enjoy it.  Amor fati!  Love your fate, says Holliday.

I find it admirable as well.  I believe that when I don’t stop to ask why something happened to me, that I am much calmer and much happier.  And I like that Holliday is challenging the reader to take that to this next level of appreciating whatever it is that happens.  If I appreciate my tragedies, there is nearly nothing to be unhappy about and much to celebrate.

A question that comes up for me is whether I need my sense of discontent to be motivated to act to improve situations that would normally be stressful.  

My Notes to a Friend Who is Bored at His Job

What follows is a recap of what I recently told a friend over lunch when I found out that he was bored at work.

What Not To Do: Don't Numb Yourself At Work

Put away the smartphone. Log out of Facebook.  Pay attention.  Work is most of your life.

There are 168 hours each week.  You're awake for about 112 hours and you work/commute about half of that time.  Numbing yourself is not an option.  You need your wits about you.

Leave

My first advice to you is to leave. Find yourself some interesting work. Doesn't have to be with a different company though that can be fine too.  

You’ve been there about three years and it’s about time you moved to a new position that will challenge you to grow personally.

Try to see what kinds of doors are open to you based on the confluence of experience and opportunity that is your current situation and take a chance on it. If you can plug into something spiritually significant to you, go for it. If not, aim for personal development.

Stay and Be Your Best Self

And if there are reasons that you can’t leave and you need to hang around where you are, then stop doing things exactly the way you’ve been doing them. I don’t mean to get lazy on the job. You’re not Atlas and you’re not shrugging.

I mean that there are probably opportunities to design better ways to do the sorts of things that you have been doing. To make yourself more effective or to make this less prone to error. You can design checklists and systems that streamline the work and reduce the possibility that a step will be missed or a mistake will not be caught.

If you like to write software, you can implement the system in software. If not, you can implement it as process. Either way, if you are bored it’s because you’re not putting development energy into the way you are doing your job.

The more you can chip away at the things that are not urgent but are very important, the more you will love your work.

I can rarely think of any job I have been in where I have been bored and there wasn’t anything I could do about it.

How to Exercise When You Don't Have Time

My high school friend, Peter, is a very busy parent and attorney.  And very recently, we were talking about ways that we could get more exercise.  Now, I didn’t decide to go the parenthood route like he did so I can use all of the time that my kids would be demanding my attention to do things like writing this blog post and getting a minimally acceptable level of exercise.  

Exercising with Good Housekeeping

And I can imagine up silly answer to questions like this:  

How does a person who thinks he has no time to get to the gym manage to get more exercise?

Normally when I try to brainstorm these sorts of things, I end up with a list and most of the things I come up with are obvious or not too helpful.  One idea was so interesting though, that I have started using it each morning.  It came from a thought: what if you could use that time you are catching your breath between sets.  And what if you don't like getting dressed in gym clothes to work out?  

As with many of my brilliant ideas, the ones born of laziness are the most amusing and the most useful.  So it was that I gave birth to a workout designed to be done at home in any clothes and also doesn't require that you shower more than once a day.  This works by interleaving the preparation for your shower into your workout.

Here’s what I imagine:

  • Workout Set I:
    • 50 jumping jacks and 30-40 air squats
    • Gather your clothes and put them in the bathroom
  • Workout Set II:
    • 20-30 Pushups
    • Brush your teeth
  • Workout Set III:
    • 20-30 Chair Dips
    • Shave
  • Workout Set IV:
    • 7-10 Pullups
    • 30 steam engine
    • Shower
  • Final Set:
    • 3 Sun Salutations

The sets can be just about anything and all you have to do is lengthen your shower routine a bit.  I have tested this out for a few weeks now and, even though Liz laughs at me when she hears me doing my jumping jacks, I love that I still have time for everything else I want to do.  Like writing blog posts.

Give it a try!  And see if it adds nicely to what you’re already doing to keep yourself in good shape.  Let me know how it works out for you on twitter @francisluong.

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Quote: Dennett on Jumping Out of the System

This describes many of the debates that linger in politics and economics as well. Generally there is a flawed fundamental premise that is not being examined.

When you are confronting a scientific or philosophical problem, the system you need to jump out of is so typically entrenched that it is as invisible as the air you breathe. As a general rule, when a long-standing controversy seems to be getting nowhere, with both “sides” stubbornly insisting they are right, as often as not the trouble is that there is something they both agree on that is just no so. Both sides consider it so obvious in fact that it goes without saying. Finding these invisible problem-prisoners is not an easy task…
…sometimes a problem gets started when somebody way back when said, “Suppose, for the sake of argument that,…” and folks agreed, for the sake of argument, and then in the subsequent parry and thrust everybody forgot how the problem started! I think that occasionally, at least in my field of philosophy, the opponents are enjoying the tussle so much that neither side wants to risk extinguishing the whole exercise by examining the enabling premises.

From Intuition Pumps and Other Tools for Thinking.

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